Wise Words from Others

“and whatever is done by only me is your doing, my darling” -EE Cummings

“Give to me your leather, take from me my lace.” – Fleetwood Mac, “Leather and Lace”

“Trust plays a key role in this. It eases fear so that I am free to dissolve into mindless ecstasy.” -Layne Winklebleck

“If it changes then change it…simple as that. Theres always going to be room to grow. Might try something new and want to add/ban it” – Psycosis, on how to begin structuring a D/s relationship

“Fear may induce the show of submission; but love only can truly subjugate a haughty spirit.” – Mary Cowden Clarke

“Implied
Subjection, but required with gentle sway
And by her yielded, by him best received;
Yielded with coy submission, modest pride,
And sweet reluctant amorous delay.” – John Milton

“I do not want to be the leader. I refuse to be the leader. I want to live darkly and richly in my femaleness. i want a man lying over me, always over me. His will, his pleasure, his desire, his life, his work, his sexuality the touchstone, the command, my pivot. I don’t mind working, holding my ground intellectually, artistically; but as a woman, oh, God, as a woman I want to be dominated. I don’t mind being told to stand on my own feet, not to cling all that I am capable of doing but I am going to be pursued, fucked, possessed by the will of a male at his time, his bidding.” – Anais Nin

“There are thorns everywhere, but along the path of vice, roses bloom above them” – Marquis de Sade

“The number one job of the dominant is to continually seduce consent from the bottom.” – Joseph Bean

“Submission can actually engender power: realizing that you have something to give, and that you are capable of mastering your own will to give it up the way your top wants it instead of the way you think S/He should want it, can inspire pride: not the false pride of an inflated ego, but the true pride that, like humility, comes from knowing the depths of your self.” – William Henkin

“When you think night and day and every moment only of pleasing Me, things will be very easy for you.” – Anne Rice

“Most welcome, bondage, for thou art a way, I think, to liberty” – William Shakespeare

“For most of the world, domination is a sign of anger and suppression, yet in the context of a leather scene it can be an act of caring and affection. As children we were taught that submission is a sign of weakness, yet in our realm submission becomes a voluntary surrender of power and an act worthy of respect. To some, bondage is a cruel affliction to be fought against. In our community, it can be an experience of soaring freedom and release. Acts of discipline can be punishment, a source of fear and trauma, but when it is part of a “scene” it can be a framework of protocol for our play. We take pain, ordinarily something to be avoided at all cost and embrace it, transforming it into pleasure.” – Hardy Haberman

“Accessing the trance-state consciousness can be achieved through BDSM play. In transiting to the higher realms of consciousness the mind shifts and clarity, beauty, answers and knowledge are more easily accessed because you can bypass the ego. The body also releases endorphins, which provide a chemical stimulus conducive to trance states as a response to pain. But a high trance state can be achieved soly through the mind without pain but this takes more concentration and discipline.” Goddess Inanna

“Life is nothing but a series of memories you make.” – Criss Angel

“Sometimes a woman wants her man to act like a man! You’ve gotta push back a little! Get a little rough!” – Lois, of Family Guy

“Oh, the comfort – the inexpressible comfort of feeling safe with a person – having neither to weigh thoughts nor measure words, but pouring them all right out, just as they are, chaff and grain together; certain that a faithful hand will take and sift them, keep what is worth keeping, and then with the breath of kindness blow the rest away. ” ~Dinah Craik, A Life for a Life, 1859

“If one does not wish bonds broken, one should make them elastic and thereby strengthen them.” – Ardant du Picq

“The most important thing in a relationship between a man and a woman is that one of them must be good at taking orders” – Linda Festa

“As you think so shall you be! Since you cannot physically experience another person, you can only experience them in your mind. Conclusion: All of the other people in your life are simply thoughts in your mind. Not physical beings to you, but thoughts. Your relationships are all in how you think about the other people of your life. Your experience of all those people is only in your mind. Your feelings about your lovers come from your thoughts. For example, they may in fact behave in ways that you find offensive. However, your relationship to them when they behave offensively is not determined by their behavior, it is determined only by how you choose to relate to that behavior. Their actions are theirs, you cannot own them, you cannot be them, you can only process them in your mind.” – Wayne Dyer